To The Real Guys(Singles) Out There!

Hello friends! A shout out to the REAL GUYS out there! Just thought to share this post I got today from a dear brother with you! I have put my little 'extra' here and there but the crust of the message remains the same. God bless you as you read, rbc and make necessary amends!The hustle and bustle of becoming a
man ain't an easy job, I must confess!
But with God and diligence in
fulfilling purpose, we'll get there.
I write this letter to you to point out
some things which you ought to know
before marriage or as you continue in
that relationship. This letter is strictly for men, not boys
or players. First concerning how you treat ladies. I know quite alright that ladies are emotional only few are not. Please, don't take advantage of that
and inflict emotional pain on them.
If you know she's not going to be your
wife, there's no point promising her
heaven and earth just to get her in
bed.If you think you're smart, your smartness cannot prevent the nemesis
or daring consequences that would
one day catch up with you. It's better you avoid the consequences of an action because of its few minutes
pleasure than to face its agony and
regrets in the near future.What are you doing about your life and future? I know it's trendy to go clubbing and indulge in all youthful
exuberance. See, life doesn't go on a
stretch forever and every time wasted
cannot be recovered. If at age 30 or close to it, you haven't define your life or you're still depending on friends, family or relatives, you need to work on yourself.Where do you put God in your life? Consider God in the time of your youth before it's too late. Many of you who turned back on God will someday run back to Him for help. If you cannot dance to the devil's music, it's better you start learning God's dancing steps.Hear this guys, love isn't s*x! Don't tell a lady to prove her love to you
because you want to have a 'taste' of
her. I know everyone is going haywire
with premarital s*x but you can
choose to abstain. Apart from it being sin against God, it will make you vulnerable to STDs and some problems 'rubber' cannot prevent or fix.It doesn't matter if she calls you names! If you choose to abstain, or you become an object of mockery amongst your friends, run for your dear life. Think about your future and life hereafter. Don't give your strength to strange women, preserve it for your
wife.Have you discovered your purpose in
life? That very reason why God has
created you? Jumping from one lady to another (all in the name of DATING) without discovering your purpose on
earth will make you miserable and
waste away in life. Know your purpose in life and be on track to attain it's fulfilment before you think of going into a relationship. It's not difficult, it would only prevent you from distraction.Watch the company of friends you
keep. Are they contributing positively
to your life or they are emptying you
of virtues and opportunities? It's not a must you hang out with friends if you do not benefit from them. You can stand alone with God and make lasting impact than keep dozens of friends and yet have no footprints in the sand of time.Man up guys! Build your financial, spiritual, mental and emotional life.
Only a crazy man beats a woman even
if she pushed you to the wall. There is
a button of patience to press to control
your anger. Remember, ANGER is only a letter short of DANGER! And 'Self Control' is a fruit of the Spirit!Work on your mental development. Read good books to acquire knowledge and skill. Get intimate with God so that you/your wife wouldn't become a victim of false prophets or become spiritual babes in handling matters of life at the home front.My guy, you're going to be a father
someday. Don't do the things you wouldn't be proud of your son emulating or things you wouldn't want anyone do to your daughter. If you wouldn't want to leave a bad legacy for your unborn children, don't tread the path now. I'd have love to tell you more but I believe you know the importance of life and time and I'm constrained due to space.Don't waste away chasing every Tom,
Dick and Harry( permit the pun but aptly put, Ngozi, Tinu or Bridget lol!) for s*x. Conserve your energies and channel it into a more productive cause in life. I hope the few wise ones would treasure this letter, share it or send it to a friend.A word is enough for the wise!

About Kemi Odutayo

‘Kemi Odutayo, a graduate of University of Lagos, Nigeria is a Practitioner of NLP, a blogger, an author, a counselor and a media consultant. She is the Head of Operations, Me4 Communications, a publishing, marketing and communications outfit specializing in publishing books/eBooks, managing and offering training for social media accounts for individuals and organizations. Kemi and her husband of many years, Kayode Odutayo have a beautiful family blessed with three lovely children.