Blessed morning all! It’s great to be back! Hope we are gradually moving towards our goals? Remember, don’t wait for your ship to come in, get in the sea and swim towards it! Note the key word in this statement, ‘swim’. It goes without saying that if you don’t know how to ‘swim’ and you are sure you don’t want to drown before reaching your ship (destination/goal in life); it is expedient that you learn how to ‘swim’. Acquire that skill, get a mentor in your desired field, enroll for that course, talk to that person etc. Dare to do something different! Do all you can to prepare yourself for where you are going. This is the fact about this ‘sea’ called life!
Someone once said, ‘a child we refuse to teach will eventually be taught by the world’! Today I am going to be talking a bit about our relationship with our children. These children are ‘clean slates’ that have been handed over to us by the owner; for us to hold in custody. In otherwords, we can refer to ourselves (parents) as stewards or custodians. With this mindset, i bet we will all ensure that our ‘ Method of Parenting’ is deliberate.

One other thing I have also come to understand about parenting is the fact that each child is different; each with unique gift, character and personality. As a a parent or parent to-be, it is our sole responsibility to study each child to know his/her uniqueness and thus lead them accordingly. We need to study their temperaments as this will help us to bond with each child and hence know the best way to build his/her esteem. This will ultimately bring out the ‘Prince’ or the ‘Princess’ in him or her no matter how difficult you think the child is!
In a world where moral decadence and lack of values are the order of the day, we need to deliberately create time for them. We need to censor what they watch on the media(hope you know some people are already advocating for cartoons where princes marry princes and princesses marry princesses!). We need to check out who we are leaving them with( maids, drivers, aunties, muncles etc) or who they are hanging out with! Not having more than two or three kids should no longer be the resultant effect of lack of adequate finance; inability to pay school fees or provide some other basic necessities. Rather it should be with the express intention of having kids that you will not only be able to provide with emotional and moral support but more importantly a home where God is the head! May our children be indeed like polished cornerstones fit for the palaces!
Till my next post…lets live a life that counts!

About Kemi Odutayo

‘Kemi Odutayo, a graduate of University of Lagos, Nigeria is a Practitioner of NLP, a blogger, an author, a counselor and a media consultant. She is the Head of Operations, Me4 Communications, a publishing, marketing and communications outfit specializing in publishing books/eBooks, managing and offering training for social media accounts for individuals and organizations. Kemi and her husband of many years, Kayode Odutayo have a beautiful family blessed with three lovely children.