Hello friends! It’s Friday! Welcome to another scintillating session.on #ListenUpNG It’s great to be here again impacting lives

For the past few weeks, the #ListenUpNG sessions have been addressing issues in #Relationships relating to Single guys and ladies

#InCaseYouMissed any of these sessions, do browse through my TL or better still, visit www.kemiodutayo.com/blog and you will be glad you did

This week we continue in the same vein by bringing to the fore a most crucial and burning questions in the hearts of most Singles #ListenUpNG

#ListenUpNG I can’t begin to remember the number of times I get asked this particular question. A question that is not gender sensitive

HOW CAN I BE SURE THAT HE/SHE IS THE ONE? #DearBooNG #DearBooNG #ListenUpNG #ThisThingCalledMarriageNG

Today on #ListenUpNG your weekly mentoring event on twitter that addresses #RealLifeIssues in #Relationships

#ListenUpNG I have the honour of hosting again, the @SupersoulLifter Eniola Ake, a beauty in and out with a special passion for Singles

#ListenUpNG @SupersoulLifter is relationship coach, Practitioner of NLP, a therapist, a wife, mum and an author

#ListenUpNG She is the author of the fast selling popular book titled, THE ROAD TO I DO. @SupersoulLifter

1)As a relationship coach, the best way I can help you to be sure you are with the right person is to guide you.
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2.Each relationship is unique,so what happens in relationship A is totally different from what happens in B.
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3. One of my clients narrated a heartbreaking event that happened to her about 6 years ago. #ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

4. She thought she had found the right one to get married to her. #ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

5. The guy promised her marriage& showered her with gifts,she started picturing&planning her wedding day in their head#ListenUpNG@KemiOdutayo

6. She had started looking into magazine for a fabulous,flashy&high class wedding ceremony ideas #ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

7.A few months after dating the guy,he stops picking her calls,stops calling and wasn’t replying her messages. #ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

8.She was so heartbroken that she became intense and desperate with her calls. She kept calling. #ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

9.This was a guy who promised to get married to her,have kids with her,had taken her to his home to see his Parents #ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

10 Then all of a sudden from nowhere he shut down.#ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

11.As a desperate woman who didn’t want to believe she had just gone through a terrible heartbreak,she kept calling#ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

12. You would think she would give up after so many attempts with no reply.#ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

13. She kept calling.On one occasion he picked up but it was a lady’s voice she heard… #ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

14. So the lady says “he is busy right now” my client goes “please tell him so and so called” and the call went off.#ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

15. Still shocked, she kept on calling to know what had happened/what she had done wrong.#ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

16.After a week of numerous calls, she gave up. Then one day he finally called back. She was shocked.#ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

17.But was expecting him to apologise or say something like it was a test or something…#ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

18.Then he says the REASON I was distant is becos my ex came back&said she found out she was pregnant for me#ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

19.No extemely heartbroken and in tears…
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20.Not sure the statement was right or wrong, my client decided to end the relationship #ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

21. She said, she wasn’t going to settle for that or drag a man with any other woman. #ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

22.She simply knew she was more valuable. She knew her worth
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23. Although, She was obviously too heartbroken and taken over by surprise by his actions.
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24. She decided to seek for help. Due to the heartbreak. #ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

25.When we had our session, I helped point out the mistakes she made &how she could attract the right man.#ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

26.Our focus was to help her get into a healthy relationship.#ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

27. She made some mistakes and overlooked signs which was why she was attracted such men.#ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

28. Good thing is when he kept asking for sex,she declined. Maybe she would have been added to his list of baby mamas #ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

29. Mistakes point u to the right direction,so u can identify & not miss the right person when he/she shows up #ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

30.Her first mistake was not properly processing the pain after a previously relationship failed.#ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

30b. She had been in a relationship before but didn’t heal well when the relationship ended. #ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

30c. When people fail to properly process pain, the residue and pieces of their broken self is taken into the next relationship @KemiOdutayo

31. Which leaves them to be more susceptible to attracting the wrong relationship. #ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

32. So the healing that didn’t take place didn’t help her to identify that the guy wasn’t a right choice for her.#ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

33. He was simply a game player not a real man. #ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

34. The next mistake she made was settling for less than she deserved. #ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

35. Because she was too desperate to be in another relationship. She settled. #ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

36. Desperation will keep your eyes and heart focused on the wrong relationship.#ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

38.What she saw looked good but she failed to pay attention to his heart. #ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

39.Looks deceive especially when it comes to love and heart issues. #ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

40.Her ex wasn’t ready for a serious and committed relationship, he only wanted to have an piece of her. #ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

41. The right one for you loves and respects you enough not to be committed to someone else while proclaiming love to you.

42. He lacked the fear of God. If he loves God he wouldn’t have been dating two ladies at the same time #ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

43 The right one is not emotionally or spiritually manipulative#ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

44. Assess the individual beyond what they say to you. #ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

45. Thank you for having me today #ListenUpNG @KemiOdutayo

46. You can download my e-book “How to know the Right person” here – https://t.co/egkvZ11ap5

About Kemi Odutayo

‘Kemi Odutayo, a graduate of University of Lagos, Nigeria is a Practitioner of NLP, a blogger, an author, a counselor and a media consultant. She is the Head of Operations, Me4 Communications, a publishing, marketing and communications outfit specializing in publishing books/eBooks, managing and offering training for social media accounts for individuals and organizations. Kemi and her husband of many years, Kayode Odutayo have a beautiful family blessed with three lovely children.