Hello friends! It’s time for your favourite mentoring event on twitter…#ListenUpNG #BackToTheBasics

This month’s edition on #ListenUpNG is targeting the Singles. It’s crucial they get it right before tieing the knot

#ListenUpNG The #RealLifeIssue to be discussed is THE PLACE OF FRIENDSHIP in relationships ~ this is the 2nd session in May Edition

#ListenUpNG Our special guest on #ListenUpNG Wk20, Ralph Segun Dada popularly referred to as (RSD) is an Accountant by training @RSegundada

#ListenUpNG @RSegundada presently coordinate the vibrant Singles Fellowship of @DaystarNG

Right now, join me to welcome @RSegundada on board #ListenUpNG Wk20. You are welcome, sir!

1.“Understanding the place of friendship in a relationship is the secret to outstanding relationship” RSD. #ListenUpNG.

2.Most relationships suffer because of the ignorance of the importance of friendship. #ListenUpNG

3.“Friendship is the only cement that will ever hold the world together.” Woodrow T. Wilson. #ListenUpNG

4. Lack of comprehension of the subject of friendship is responsible 4 the stress in most relationships, not attraction. #ListenUpNG

5. Oxford dictionary defines a friend as “a person you know well & like,who is not usually a member of your family. #ListenUpNG

6.Meaning that before you can call someone your friend, you should know and like the person. #ListenUpNG

7.It is not all the people you know that you like and it is not all the people you like that you know. #ListenUpNG

8.So good information about a person and affection for such should be at least basis for friendship. #ListenUpNG

9.“Knowing the meaning of friendship secures relationships from unnecessary hardships” RSD. #ListenUpNG

10.Some synonyms of friendship are: Love, Devotion, Intimacy, Understanding, Empathy, Consideration, & Agreement. #ListenUpNG

11.Amos 3:3, “Is it possible for two to go walking together, if not by agreement”? BBE. #ListenUpNG

12.“Agreement is the secret of amazing and unending attachment in friendship” RSD. #ListenUpNG

13.“A real friend is someone who walks in when the rest of the world walks out” Walter Winchell. #ListenUpNG

14.So a friend is someone who can see the truth and pain in you even when you are fooling everyone else. #ListenUpNG

15.We all need real friends in life that will stand with us and by us to help fulfill our life’s dreams. #ListenUpNG

16.No one is as anointed as Jesus, yet He had friends that helped Him to fulfill his visions. John 15:15. #ListenUpNG

17.“I would rather walk with a friend in the dark, than alone in the light”. Helen Keller. #ListenUpNG

20.Surface friendships: those that are for a season e.g people u see once in a while like in d malls, cinemas, saloon etc. #ListenUpNG

21.Structured friendships: they are for a reason,u relate with them 4 some time e.g colleagues at work, friends at school. #ListenUpNG

22.Solid & Secures friendships: they are 4 fulfillment of destiny; they are d ones that should be considered for marriage. #ListenUpNG

23.Solid friends relate with you through commitment and not with convenience. #ListenUpNG

24.Solids friends never allow conditions to hinder their relationship with you because they are in covenant with you. #ListenUpNG

25.To the world you may be just one person, but to one solid friend, you may be the world. #ListenUpNG

26.“Friends come and friends go, but a true friend sticks by you like family. Proverbs 18:24 Message. #ListenUpNG

27.People who abuse themselves in relationships really don’t understand the level of Solid friendships. #ListenUpNG

28.“Solid and Secured friends don’t focus on what to get from you but on what to give to you” RSD. #ListenUpNG

29. People with negative attitudes like criticism, complains, competitions & control are not advisable for solid friendships. #ListenUpNG

30. Solid friends always aim at completing you and not competing with you because of jealousy. #ListenUpNG

31.Solid friends focus on comforting you in challenging times instead of condemning you. #ListenUpNG

32.Job’s wife who was supposed to be his best friend discouraged him to deny his faith during his trials. Job 2:9. #ListenUpNG

33.Any friend that doesn’t draw you closer to God will draw you farther from Him. #ListenUpNG

34.Joseph was a very good friend 2 Mary that was why he encouraged her 2 fulfill God’s purpose of birthing Jesus. Math 1:19-25. #ListenUpNG

Hmmm. It was even recorded that he tried to shield her from ridicule even when he thought the baby wasn’t his!???? https://t.co/LEuGhIwEbV

35.If Joseph had slept with d Virgin Mary, he would have tampered with d fulfillment of her destiny in birthing Jesus. #ListenUpNG

36.“Knowing God’s idea for friendship helps you to have an ideal relationship” RSD. #ListenUpNG

37.Following God’s principles on the subject of friendship is the secret to success in relationships. #ListenUpNG

38.God desires to be our lover as our friend more than our Lord, so He called Abraham His friend 2Chron 20:7. #ListenUpNG

39. Jesus called his disciples friends because of His depth of love for them. John 15:15. #ListenUpNG

40.So the greatest principle for solid friendship is genuine love for the person. #ListenUpNG

41.”The difference between lust and love is sacrifice for you and not selfish satisfaction from you” RSD. #ListenUpNG

42.Shechem had lust for Dinah and raped her thinking it was love. Genesis 34:1-34. #ListenUpNG

43.Amnon raped his own sister Tamar because of lust and not love 2 Samuel 13:1-20. #ListenUpNG

44.Taking advantage of your partner either financially, emotionally etc in any relationship is lust & not love. #ListenUpNG

45.“A real friend will make your life better and not bitter in a relationship” RSD. #ListenUpNG

46.“This is the very best way to love. Put your life on the line for your friends”. John 15:13.MSG. #ListenUpNG

47.Friends are willing to sacrifice their time, treasures, talents and temper to forgive offences. #ListenUpNG

48.“A friend loves at all times, and becomes a brother in times of trouble”. Proverbs 17:17 BBE. #ListenUpNG

49.“Forgiveness is an important attribute of sacrificial love in friendship for a solid relationship” RSD. #ListenUpNG

50.True love in friendship also is the ability to say the truth to correct wrong actions in a relationship. #ListenUpNG

51.God’s love is sacrificial and He is also straight with us when we err. #ListenUpNG

52.“You can trust a friend who corrects you, but kisses from an enemy are nothing but lies”. Proverbs 27:6 CEV. #ListenUpNG

53.Real friends confronts the wrong issues in relationships in love, they don’t condemn you. #ListenUpNG

54.Solid friends also focus on sharpening you so that you can be able to fulfill your purpose. #ListenUpNG

55.“Just as iron sharpens iron, friends sharpen the minds of each other”. Proverbs 27:17 CEV. #ListenUpNG

56.“A guy or lady in a relationship should make you have great sense for life before marriage and not good sex” RSD. #ListenUpNG

So #DearBaeNG #DearBooNG Say no to #FriendsWithBenefits #ListenUpNG Sex outside marriage blindsides you… @RSegundada

57.“Friendship in relationship is essentially for development and improvements not mere management” RSD. #ListenUpNG

58.You need friends in life no matter the level you have attained because life is a journey with different phases. #ListenUpNG

59.“The best time to make friends is before you need them.”Ethel Barrymore. #ListenUpNG

61.“Don’t look for friends to meet your needs, rather live to meet people’s needs because you are a friend” RSD. #ListenUpNG

62.“You need to connect with Jesus the greatest friend for you to be able to connect with men for solid friendship” RDS. #ListenUpNG

@RSegundada Thank you so much for these thought provoking tweets on #ListenUpNG Wk20. They are food for thought. It calls for re-evaluation

With these last tweets from @RSegundada we are calling it a day on #ListenUpNG Wk20. Join me again next week! https://t.co/GRDrSJ2ccP

#BackToTheBasics I strongly believe if we can get THE PLACE OF FRIENDSHIP right in our relationships, conflicts wil b minimized #ListenUpNG

Till I come your way same time next week, let’s be deliberate and intentional in our relationships #ListenUpNG


About Kemi Odutayo

‘Kemi Odutayo, a graduate of University of Lagos, Nigeria is a Practitioner of NLP, a blogger, an author, a counselor and a media consultant. She is the Head of Operations, Me4 Communications, a publishing, marketing and communications outfit specializing in publishing books/eBooks, managing and offering training for social media accounts for individuals and organizations. Kemi and her husband of many years, Kayode Odutayo have a beautiful family blessed with three lovely children.