#ListenUpNG Wk12: GIRLS AT RISK!

TGIF! ???? Thank you for following #ListenUpNG March Edition. It has been inspiring since the 1st week

Our special guest on #ListenUpNG this week is Titilola Tewe @fathersgirls on twitter.

#ListenUpNG With the prevalent kidnap and abduction of children, teenage girls seem to suffer more from these inhuman acts.

#ListenUpNG From the #BringBackOurGirls campaign to the most recent abduction of Ese(Aisha) by one Yunusa

…and the abduction of the 3 girls from Babington Maucaley College, it’s one harrowing experience after another #ListenUpNG

#ListenUpNG Today, Titilola is going to share more on those risks our teenage girls are being exposed to and how to curb such.

#ListenUpNG Titilola Tewe has a passion to make a positive difference in people’s lives especially young women.

#ListenUpNG Titilola is the lady behind The Father’s Girls, a ministry with a vision to raise and nurture young girls into responsible adults.

#ListenUpNG Read more about Titilola and our other special guests on the MARCH EDITION of #ListenUpNG here

#ListenUpNG  Join me as I welcome our passionate guest on board #ListenUpNG Wk12!???????? @fathersgirls over to you!

I want to say a very big thank you for having me on this platform, and I do not take it lightly.

I have been asked to talk about “GIRLS AT RISK”, an area I am very passionate about.

Supporting girls for me is a calling, and when I say “girls”, I mean adolescents, teenagers, and young adults in their early to mid-twenties.

Girls are special and very delicate, and the most critical stage of their life is the adolescent stage.

Between the ages of 10 – 19, and sometimes earlier than that, girls transit into womanhood.

All of a sudden, they begin to develop physically and psychologically; they become aware of their sexuality, have mood swings…

and want to gain independence which is most times termed as rebellion.

At this stage, there are pressures to engage in high risk behaviours, which would ultimately cause more weighty issues for these girls.

So what risks are girls exposed to?

The girl child is exposed to a myriad of risks; some within her control, and some outside her control.

Many times they have to battle with drugs, alcohol, depression, parental neglect, emotional abuse, sexual exploitation…

…sexual abuse, STDs, genital mutilation, unintended pregnancies, and early marriage to name a few.

The sad thing is that each one of these behaviours, if not properly handled, may lead to infections, more depression and ultimately, death.

So we implore women everywhere to support our girls.

At The Father’s Girls, a platform which I run, we understand what these girls go through, and having worked with them for about 5 years..

…we have chosen to look into an area where most people and organizations in Africa may not delve into…

…and it is the support for pregnant teenagers and single mother between the ages of 14-24.

Whether our society accepts it or not, these girls are human, and they have dreams and aspirations like every other girl…

…lady or woman on the street, and so they need our support;

firstly, to educate them on the consequences of their actions,

secondly, to help gain their self-esteem back, have a new vision for life, and lastly, empowerment to fulfil their dreams.

We believe in having many chances in life. We want to give them another opportunity to create a desirable future.

So what do we do currently?
We have 2 ladies we are currently working with.

The first is a 22 year old lady who has a 3 year old daughter. Her highest educational qualification is the Ordinary Leaving School Certificate (S.S.C.E.)…

…and she has a goal to attend a fashion school so that she can later be empowered to take care of herself and her daughter.

A few days ago, we assisted her in getting a job, and by April, her daughter would resuming in a school.

The second lady is in the same circumstance. She is yet to get a job, so we support her regularly with a stipend so that mother and child can have their basic needs met.

My Charge to the society:

Discriminating against young mothers is adding to the problem.

Some schools are publicly shaming pregnant teens in front of their peers and suggesting they go to an alternative programs.

Then there is all this talk about how pregnant teens drop out of school. Some even have to get odd jobs to fend for themselves.

Who would not be depressed after hearing that broken record played day after day?

They feel condemned already for getting pregnant at a young age.

Some are disowned, thrown on the streets, and left to take care of themselves and their unborn child.

Are we in support of illicit sex or girls getting pregnant out of wedlock? Of course not.

We need to bring society together instead of dividing it because discrimination from society is not working.

Everyone needs to realize the cause and effect of discrimination. We need to be a part of the solution, not add to the problem.

For just a few seconds think like a teen parent and put yourself in someone else’s shoes beside your own.

These girls are young, and need the support of their parents and older women to help them through the process.

These girls need our support. They feel condemned already for getting pregnant at a young age.

Some have been disowned by parents, thrown into the streets, and left to take care of themselves and their unborn child;

…and for some others, they are forced to do hard labour at home as a punishment for getting pregnant.

This is a problem we cannot totally eliminate, rather we need to look for ways to prevent it from causing more social problems.

If you would like to be a part of this initiative, you can speak to me on 08090980600.

Thank you Kemi for this opportunity to share what we are doing. And thank you all for making out time to read these tweets. Have a great weekend ahead.

Wow! Thank you so much, Titi! It’s been another impactful session on #ListenUpNG Wk12 with Titilola Tewe @fathersgirls Watch Out for ABIMBOLA DAVIDS in our last session in the MARCH EDITION.

I believe with more awareness like this, the risks to the #GirlChild will soon be a thing of the past!

Hello teens! Or are you in your tweenies and need a shoulder to lean on? #ListenUpNG Pls tweet at @fathersgirls You won’t regret it!

About Kemi Odutayo

‘Kemi Odutayo, a graduate of University of Lagos, Nigeria is a Practitioner of NLP, a blogger, an author, a counselor and a media consultant. She is the Head of Operations, Me4 Communications, a publishing, marketing and communications outfit specializing in publishing books/eBooks, managing and offering training for social media accounts for individuals and organizations. Kemi and her husband of many years, Kayode Odutayo have a beautiful family blessed with three lovely children.