Hi friends! The FEBRUARY EDITION of #ListenUpNG kicked off today with Praise Fowowe. See below the compiled tweets. It will blow your mind! Lol!

Please #ReadRestRelaxAndReflect as you go through the tweets uninterrupted. It is with great honor I will be hosting @praisefowowe this afternoon on #ListenUpNG Wk6! Sit tight & hold your breath! http://t.co/cFOv9yYsUX

Good evening tweeps. We will be treating a very important topic today, just sit back and #ListenUp Missionary style again? #ListenUp

Warning this session is a master class for married people singles are hereby prohibited from experimenting this lol #ListenUp

Let me welcom you 2 class dis wkend & thanks 2 d host of dis master class bcos bedroom negotiation is a critical part of marriage.#ListenUp

Sex doesn’t stand on its own because it is a form of communication unfortunately not so many people know this #ListenUp

What couples call boring sex or lack of sexual satisfaction in most cases is nothing but communication problem. #ListenUp

Sex in marriage is lyk placing an order & having the order delivered to specification unfortunately many neva specify their order.#ListenUp

While many don’t specify the order the chef also delivers an assumed order & never waits to get a feedback from the customer.#ListenUp

So what happens in most marriages is a case of couples not knowing what d other wants & d other not talking abt what he/she wants.#ListenUp

Then there is a case of comparison especially for those who have been sexually active before marriage & those hooked on porn.#ListenUp

I often tell couples that there is no way the bedroom won’t suffer once communication is messed up.#ListenUp

May I also state that until you understand your partner’s sexual response based on their personality type it may affect ur bedroom.#ListenUp

So when it comes to sex in marriage I like to talk about the 3 course meal of preview, view & review.#ListenUp

Preview is you talking about how best u want sex & ur fantasies with your partner so that expectations is clear before the match.#ListenUp

Preview is both of you expressing your fears, expectations and your erogenous zones to make it easy for body mastery.#ListenUp

Your partner’s body cannot be assumed it must be discovered thru clear knowledge & that is why my emphasis remains communication.#ListenUp

View is your ability to romantically communicate when sex is going on to be sure u are hitting the right buttons & doing it right.#ListenUp

Couples ask me how easy it is to talk during sex & I respond by saying – sex with your spouse should be a tour guide journey.#ListenUp

You must be able to talk while the action is on so that you can get feedback with your spouse and not mess them up.#ListenUp

By talking during the act u are able to know d build up towrds orgasm & are able 2 match their breathing patterns 4 mutual climax.#ListenUp

The 3rd course is review where you get your report cards and look at areas of adjustments against the next session.#ListenUp

It is always good to review cos without a feedback couples can drift apart because of unrealized expectations.#ListenUp

When couples preview, view and review sex becomes a romantic journey to look forward to cos there is always something to learn.#ListenUp

Let me state at this juncture that the goal of sex is to give pleasure to your spouse so let the focus shift from you to him/her.#ListenUp

However I have seen quite a number of cases where couples complain about sex being boring due to monotony.#ListenUp

Missionary has always been the traditional style for many & for the religious especially, any other style is a no no.#ListenUp

Your upbringing to a large extent can affect your bedroom and that is why I often counsel that you must stretch your mind.#ListenUp

Sex is not just abt you or ur preferred style; it is also abt the preferred menu of your spouse & how he/she loves it being served.#ListenUp

Missionary style is the usual style of man on top & woman under him; its often called the dominating style of men in some quarters.#ListenUp

Missionary is quite good because it makes for a full view of each other and there is a body magic that happens when its well done.#ListenUp

However the proponents of missionary alone know that it’s impossible to enjoy missionary during pregnancy.#ListenUp

But its not just about pregnancy its also about the fact that it has it’s limitations unlike some other sex styles.ListenUp

Wiley brand highlighted a couple of them like the penis not providing sufficient stimulation to the clitoris for many women to reach orgasm.#ListenUp

Also the man is resting on his arms and hinders using his hands for additional clitoral stimulation.#ListenUp

The woman’s range of motion is quite limited in the missionary position, other than to thrust upward in time with her partner.#ListenUp

The man could tire easily especially if it goes on for too long.#ListenUp

It can also aggravate premature ejaculation because the man may find it a bit difficult to control ejaculation here.#ListenUp

Loads of women may never experience orgasm with this style in several cases.#ListenUp

Until you become a skilled bedroom negotiator you may not totally enjoy your sex life.#ListenUp

This is because your pleasure actually comes from pleasuring your spouse.#ListenUp

Until your mindset can accommodate some of the things I have said before now it may be hard for you to be open to change.#ListenUp

I have met women who told me any other style outside missionary makes them feel like a prostitute and sometimes that cracks my ribs a bit.#ListenUp

If you are not your spouse’s prostitute who else would you want that prostitute to be? #ListenUp

Truth is you don’t have to just remain a wife in the 21st century you must also be your spouse’s concubine/loveboy as well.#ListenUp

So what are my recommendations?#ListenUp Couples must ensure that the bond of friendship and communication remain intact in their relationship.#ListenUp

Couples must be free to talk about everything and anything including bedroom matters and sexual styles.#ListenUp

You must seek to understand your spouses favorite orders and be sensitive to the change in his/her sexual appetite as time goes on.#ListenUp

Patience is also critical especially when a partner is not totally comfortable with a particular sex style; it shouldn’t be forced.#ListenUp

However couples must also be open minded to unlearn, learn and relearn some styles that can spice up their marriage.#ListenUp

Your body belongs to each other and must be thoroughly explored and maximized in a way that makes you wanna ask for more.#ListenUp

Flirting with your spouse helps put the two of you in the mood and if you can talk about anything you can do anything as well.#ListenUp

Your past knowledge may no longer be relevant now that you are married so you may need to adjust and change your ways.#ListenUp

Your spouse is not your father/mother so the fact that you were told missionary is the way doesn’t make it the only way.#ListenUp

Whatever works for you must be consolidated but like I said ensure you review, view and preview regularly.#ListenUp

Invest in good books that can help spice up your sex lives and ensure you try out some of the new things you learn.#ListenUp

Meditate on your sex lives & catch a new revelation on how to make it better bcos it’s a meal that requires consistent innovation.#ListenUp

Never turn your man down when he really wants to have sex without fixing an appointment he can look forward to.#ListenUp

Don’t be afraid to ask for help when it is not working because someone else has been through your challenges.#ListenUp

Sex is God’s gift to couples and it should be enjoyed not endured hence the need for you to always be at your best.#ListenUp

Good sex requires knowledge and when your knowledge is inadequate it can mess up your bedroom ability.#ListenUp

If you don’t like a style anymore don’t be too emotional about it. Talk to your lover & let him/her understand your drift.#ListenUp

I am sure if the message is well passed the goal would be well scored especially if you are a Ronaldo lol.#LIstenUp

Once your heart is open to learn you can learn the skills that makes you the most valuable player in the bedroom.#ListenUp

Finally missionary is good but there is more to life than missions why don’t you try something different today.#ListenUp

Thanks once again for tonight and hope you have learnt something from all that we have shared.#ListenUp

God bless @KemiOdutayo for this awesome initiative. I honour you sis #ListenUpNG – PRAISE FOWOWE

Wow! Wow! Simply mind-blowing! Our homes will be preserved in Jesus name! Make it a date with us on #ListenUp, same time 4pm, next week Friday as we discuss yet another #RealLifeIssue.

Kindly share and repost to couples around you! Together we will influence our generation and the society for good and for God in Jesus name. Many thanks to our Special Guest, Praise Fowowe. God will continue to amplify your voice.

About Kemi Odutayo

‘Kemi Odutayo, a graduate of University of Lagos, Nigeria is a Practitioner of NLP, a blogger, an author, a counselor and a media consultant. She is the Head of Operations, Me4 Communications, a publishing, marketing and communications outfit specializing in publishing books/eBooks, managing and offering training for social media accounts for individuals and organizations. Kemi and her husband of many years, Kayode Odutayo have a beautiful family blessed with three lovely children.