Getting Them from Childhood to Adulthood (2)

Helloooo! Surprise am back so soon? Lol! I waited up specifically to wish you a happy new month! I believe this month hold so much possibilities but we need to tap into it. Life won't always give you what you deserve…you have to make a demand on life by your actions and decisions. Have you ever heard this saying? That many of life's failures are people who did not realise how close they were to success when they gave up'. So friends, let's brace up!Another reason I stayed up is to post the concluding part of my last post. Hope its going to be helpful with your son/daughter/niece/nephew or ward! Do read on.'…Be clear minded and self-controlled…' 1 Peter 4:7
Going from childhood to adulthood is a transition that requires a lot of wisdom and love. Your teen will feel and behave child-like sometimes, and adult-like other times. Your job is to realise that whatever their status, they will become a man (woman) and they will remain adult! Navigating through their child-adult struggles elevates your teen's stress levels, sometimes making them feel out of control.
To help them become a mature adult:
1) Be rational, not reactive. Your role requires you to be 'clear-minded and self-controlled'. Be the grown-up; you cannot help your child to become an adult if you're not one.
2) Be their parent, not their mate. They need someone 'in charge' to shepherd them toward maturity. If you abdicate your role because you're afraid of your child's anger, rejection or unhappiness, you abandon them to their own confused ways. You are the calm God put in their storm-the lighthouse to guide them. In the short term they may consider your values, rules, lifestyle and morals outdated. Expect no less; that's par for the course in parenting. Hold this line! Forget becoming 'cool' by lowering your standards; that's a no-win alternative to good parenting. They'll challenge you if you're not cool and they'll challenge you if you are. (Nothing is as 'uncool' to a teen as a parent trying to be 'cool'!) Be yourself, maintain biblical standards; they need you to have character. Yes, they'll fight you now, but if you remain resolute, loving, and consistent, they'll follow in your footsteps.Our children will indeed be taught of the Lord…but we need to be their guardian. We are the calm God put in their storm – the lighthouse to guide them.Till my next post…let's strive to put our footsteps in the sands of time!

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About Kemi Odutayo

‘Kemi Odutayo, a graduate of University of Lagos, Nigeria is a Practitioner of NLP, a blogger, an author, a counselor and a media consultant. She is the Head of Operations, Me4 Communications, a publishing, marketing and communications outfit specializing in publishing books/eBooks, managing and offering training for social media accounts for individuals and organizations. Kemi and her husband of many years, Kayode Odutayo have a beautiful family blessed with three lovely children.