1. It is an honour to be on your platform again today @dayus4heaven I don’t take it for granted #BreakingBarriers

2. #ListenUpNG I trust we are having a lovely weekend???? The theme of this Edition of #BreakingBarriers is ‘SEEING BEYOND NOW’ and I believe we will learn something new

3. I will be tweeting (targetting the youths) on the topic COMPATIBILITY IN RELATIONSHIPS. Though others won’t be left out. #BreakingBarriers

4. Shout out to my co-guests on this edition of #BreakingBarriers It’s a privilege being on the same platform with you!

5. I guess we all know about relationships, ????so i checked out the dictionary meaning of COMPATIBILITY for clarity #BreakingBarriers

6. See what I found…capable of existing or living together in harmony; able to exist together with something else #BreakingBarriers


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7. Thus, COMPATIBILITY is that ability and capability to exist or live together in HARMONY with something or someone else #BreakingBarriers

8. Two words keep resurfacing at each definition of COMPATIBILITY…the words CAPABLE and ABLE #BreakingBarriers

9. And another key word is HARMONY. Achieving a state of harmony doesn’t always start harmoniously????#BreakingBarriers


10. Have you heard the statement, YOU DISAGREE TO AGREE? Harmony is achievable depending on the parties involved in a relationship #BreakingBarriers

11. But I must warn you, it is work, a deliberate attempt to be teachable and agreeable. It is not for the faint hearted #BreakingBarriers

12. However, to do do less work take the advice from the good book. Can two walk together except they agree? #BreakingBarriers

13. You need 2look & see beyond now! Eyes that look are many but those that see are few! Make sure yours is among D few ones #BreakingBarriers

14. Look out for similar interest, passions, values, beliefs and mindsets and I bet you being compatible won’t be an issue #BreakingBarriers

15. To know what to look out for, YOU need to have discovered WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOUR OWN VALUES, PASSIONS etc are #BreakingBarriers

16. Don’t go into relationships with your eyes closed! Don’t ignore red flags you see with the hope that things will get better #BreakingBarriers

17. Don’t be blindsided! Keep your eyes on the BIG PICTURE; seeing beyond now! #BreakingBarriers

18. Don’t attach a permanent emotion to a temporary person in your life. You can identify this person by how compatible you are #BreakingBarriers

19. Ironically, contrary to popular belief, COMPATIBILITY CAN BE ACHIEVED IF WE WANT IT BADLY ENOUGH! #BreakingBarriers

20. In counselling couples, I often hear words like IRRECONCILABLE DIFFERENCES. I don’t believe in such #BreakingBarriers

21. IRRECONCILABLE DIFFERENCE is a name flung around when one or both parties in a relationship REFUSE to COMPROMISE… #BreakingBarriers

22…when he/she/they refuse to bulge about a decision made based on difference in values, beliefs, passions etc #BreakingBarriers

23. So, can two really work together unless they agree? Some singles notice these uncompromising stand in their fiance/e but still go ahead and get married! #BreakingBarriers

23b. Believing they will change/train him/her to their taste. This is a fallacy as what you see is what you get…even more #BreakingBarriers

24. They later become constant visitors @counsellors ‘ & ‘therapists’ few wks in3 their marriage. They become a prayer pt. #BreakingBarriers

25. Hear me…I am not saying immediately you notice signs of incompatibility in your relationship, you should bail out! #BreakingBarriers

26. I am saying this is the time for you to have a rethink. A time to take stock and count the cost. A time for you to be sure you are sure #BreakingBarriers

27. And if you are a believer like me, this is a time to go back to your God and ask for direction. HE SEES BEYOND NOW by virtue of who HE is #BreakingBarriers

28. Sometimes, God brings people our way to make us better and not bitter; for a reason and for a season. For us to learn life lessons #BreakingBarriers

29. HE allows some EGR people into our lives to teach us and mould our character. But we baulk at this because of the extra ‘work’ required #BreakingBarriers

30. EGR stands for EXTRA GRACE REQUIRED. People in this category try your patience and endurance level???? #BreakingBarriers

31. They are like sand paper rubbing off all the rough edges. Some are like chisels, chipping off those extra baggage #BreakingBarriers

32. Some are like steaming hot water in a tea cup bringing out the aroma and flavour in you(the tea bag)???? Sorry, not funny #BreakingBarriers

33. God has the CAPACITY to see beyond NOW; beyond your 5 physical senses and He can reveal things to come to you #BreakingBarriers

34. He knows what and who we need per time. We need to gain access into His mind; into His Spirit so we can see what He sees #BreakingBarriers

35. Look into your future. Can you see your place in destiny? You can’t be going north and be dilly dallying with the person going south #BreakingBarriers

36. You need to go on a SELF DISCOVERY journey. You need to invest in SELF DEVELOPMENT… #BreakingBarriers

37…to be able to intelligently explore the concept of COMPATIBILITY IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS #BreakingBarriers

38. Thks 4following. Thanks 4d retweets&mentions. I pray U understand these better by & by as U #ReadRestRelaxAndReflect #BreakingBarriers

39. Thanks to @dayus4heaven for the invite and the #BreakingBarriers platform. It will go places

40. Together, through whatever means or platforms available, let’s continue to impart our generation for good & for God #BreakingBarriers




About Kemi Odutayo

‘Kemi Odutayo, a graduate of University of Lagos, Nigeria is a Practitioner of NLP, a blogger, an author, a counselor and a media consultant. She is the Head of Operations, Me4 Communications, a publishing, marketing and communications outfit specializing in publishing books/eBooks, managing and offering training for social media accounts for individuals and organizations. Kemi and her husband of many years, Kayode Odutayo have a beautiful family blessed with three lovely children.