A Mother’s Heart

Hello everyone! Hope we had a great weekend? It was sure a busy one!

With the peaceful walk tagged ‘NIGERIAN WOMEN MOURN’ the victims of Bornu, Yobe and Adamawa Massacres by the religious cult Boko Haram…to the walk to ‘STAND AGAINST RAPE’ of our children and the women folks. It was sure a busy weekend!
Today I want to encourage us to get as close as ever to our kids. We never pray to lose them before their time but we need to keep the communication line open always. If you haven’t read my post titled, ‘Getting them from Childhood to Adulthood’, please click on these links. http://bit.ly/1inpobr and http://bit.ly/1fC6m0y
I am sure most of us know Aisha Falode, an ace Sport Broadcaster. She recently lost her only son, Oloruntoba Oluwadamilola. The 19-year old boy died on Saturday, 15 February 2014 and was buried amidst tears on Monday, March 3 in Lagos.

I cannot but feel her pain and loss because I am a mother too! *crying* This post is a tribute to her mother’s heart. May God console her and the rest of the family. May He give them the fortitude to bear the loss.
For his burial, to celebrate the life he lived, the grieving mum wrote this emotional tribute to her son and titled it: You Are Me, I Am You.
Please read tribute below:
I held you in my arms and my heart burst into a million pieces of joy.
It was an indescribable moment. You were adorable as I touched every bit of you. Giddy with joy, I counted your toes, your fingers, tiny and wriggly; a tough bundle of joy.
Your innocent gaze upon my face, those two adorable eyes, wide and searching as only a child’s would.
All the gems in Arabia would fade into insignificance at the emergence of your presence.
My son had come into the world, whole and complete you were.
I had looked forward to having my own son.
I carried you with pride and honour in my womb for 9 good months. Knowing that you will eventually be born made the discomforts of 9months seem like chewing a candy bar.
Here at last you were.
As you grew up into a most interesting young star, you were my joy.
In all of my trying moments, knowing that you trusted me and believed in me spurred me through even the roughest terrain.
Your childhood was joyful.
Your sister and you were my life. You still are my life. Nothing can erase your memory, not a thousand winds or a million rainfalls can replace those memories, not even a fearsome volcano can wipe you from me.
You are me, I am you.
I am devastated, I am pained, I am inconsolable, I am a mother shattered.
Who can console me but God? He knows best and did they not say those HE loves HE calls home early?
My son, the curtain fell too early for you, for us.
I am in the audience; I cannot jump on the stage where you are.
Even if I could, the curtain is drawn already. I cannot reach you.
I am tempted to say, why me, but why not me? God loves us.
HE took you my bundle of joy, even now I lean on HIM.
I can see you, stretching out those strong arms, I see you trying to console me, I see you
saying: “Mum, it was meant to be, it is not your fault”, I see you.
I see you everywhere.
Together, we walked for 19yrs, you brought me joy. You excelled in your academics, you made me a proud mother as you grew into a handsome, responsible, caring, humane, disciplined man.
I will forever remember you my son. Those fun times, the times you held me when I was down, like the man of the house, which you became so early in life…
I am consoled because I know for sure that you are in the bosom of the LORD.
I know for sure that we will meet again. You have not died, you are only asleep.
This thought will keep me going until I behold your delightful presence again.
I know you are here for I am you and you are me.

Hmmm. Readers, may we never have regret over our method of PARENTING in Jesus name. I ask for grace for us all to be PARENTS INDEED; one that will encourage our kids on the right path by presenting ourselves as role models!
Till my next post…let’s continue to live a life that counts!

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About Kemi Odutayo

‘Kemi Odutayo, a graduate of University of Lagos, Nigeria is a Practitioner of NLP, a blogger, an author, a counselor and a media consultant. She is the Head of Operations, Me4 Communications, a publishing, marketing and communications outfit specializing in publishing books/eBooks, managing and offering training for social media accounts for individuals and organizations. Kemi and her husband of many years, Kayode Odutayo have a beautiful family blessed with three lovely children.