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#ListenUpNG I came across a tweet by @FLOTUS, the official twitter handle of the FIRST LADY OF THE UNITED STATES @Therapistjones 3/
#ListenUpNG She was congratulating BEYONCE on her birthday as a role model to young girls around the world! @Therapistjones 4/
#ListenUpNG I was shocked! ???????? Oh yeah! I respect Beyonce as an ICON in her industry but as a role model? @Therapistjones 5/
Someone for young girls to pattern their lives after? ???? I think not. But what do i know? ???? #ListenUpNG What is your own opinion? @Therapistjones 6/
#ListenUpNG On today’s session, our topic of discussion is: WHO OR WHAT IS INFLUENCING YOUR CHILD? @Therapistjones 7/
Our guest @Therapistjones will be tweeting on this critical question! It is so crucial because it can make or mar our children’s future and destiny. #ListenUpNG 8/
#ListenUpNG Adeh Jones @Therapistjones, our second guest on #ListenUpNG September Edition is one young nan that knows his onions. 9/
@Therapistjones is a UK certified Parenting/Teen coach and a family therapist (MFT) with a core niche in parenting intelligence and strategies. #ListenUpNG 10/
#ListenUpNG @Therapistjones is also a NLP Practitioner and the Principal, Parenting E-cademy; an online parenting institution.11/
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#ListenUpNG “The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write but those who cannot learn, unlearn and relearn.” – Alvin Toffler 13/
#ListenUpNG You will agree with me that the methods of parenting used by our parents and grandparents seem inadequate for the 21st Century @Therapistjones 14/
…and now, #ListenUpNG join me to make welcome @Therapistjones our special guest today as he comes on air! You are welcome, sir! 15/
Great day family!!! It feels great and humbling to share with us on #ListenUpNg
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Parenting is not just a role you play, it’s a movement that we all must be intentional about, to win the fight. Parenting in the 21st century comes with its peculiar challenges, unlike how we were raised. Lack of parenting literacy , economic conditions and a misplaced priority are core reasons for such a decline in effective parenting.
And to everyone who’ve supported this movement, tomorrow will sure be great because of your contributions. #ListenUpNg
Let’s start this way.. Why are you a parent?
Where is the source of your parenting information?
Parenting becomes fun and less herculean, when we answer these questions rightly.
When we say who or what is influencing your child, what is saliently said is who is parenting your child. Because effective parenting is just a reflection of positive influences on the child.
For the sake of time, let’s look at the 3 cardinal dynamics of influence and how it can help us parent effectively. Anyone or anything that has or will influence your child, is leveraging on this dynamics.
1. Compelling ideology- the media understand this, and they use it effectively in advertising and marketing. Celebrities and Religious overlords use it to keep loyal followers, great leaders also understand this dynamics.
As a parent, what ideologies are you sending subtly to your children? How compelling are those ideologies? How does that create an object reality for them? Here is an example, will your child prefer going to church or watching cartoon?
Our children are wired to be emotional, not logical. Hence it’s important we learn how to leverage on their emotions to send such compelling ideologies. Here is a recording I did ‘how to leverage on the emotions of your child’. http://bit.ly/1FBBZ4V
As humans, we often internalize values from those we feel deeply and emotionally connected with. Such relationship can only be built with a role model or mentor figure, and that is what is lacking in our homes.
Because our kids can’t look up to us as role models, they turn over to the likes of Lil wizzy, Beyonce, catllyn Jenner, Nikki Minaj et al who can’t offer them the right moral and spiritual value system.
2. Constant exposure – whatever you’re exposed to, on a daily bases tends to have more subtle influence on you. As parents who or what is your child exposed to daily? Toys, TV, caregivers, teachers, their gadgets or you?
To a child, time is love. Quality time creates a deep imprint in children during their growing up days. They are going through a lot, are you there for them to unburden and share their world with you?
Have they earned your ear time and attention? Incidentally if you don’t, the world (their friends, the social media and wrong influences) will.
3. Fills a vacuum- anyone or anything that influences fills a deep need in a person. It could be a feeling of relevance, recognition, love et al. However, as a parent, there are 7 vacuums you must fill in other to influence your child effectively. They are emotional, mental, social, spiritual, financial, sexual, and intellectual vacuum.
In the 21st century, the child is exposed to a whole lot of information downloads, seeking his/her attention. Are you there for your child?
Whatever exerts the most influence on our children, is technically parenting our children. If this mindset is sustained, then, most of us have relegated that responsibility of parenting to teachers, caregivers, toys, TV, gadgets etc.
As a parent, you’re a steward. God is looking up to you to raise HIS children to represent him when you’re gone.
Like I share with parents, the best place to raise a child is not in church, not in school nor at home, but in the mind of the child. That is where influence takes place.
To wrap this session for today, how do we as parents influence our children? Debunk wrong ideologies and most importantly, set compelling value based ideologies.
Create and spent quality time with your children. Let’s create a family bond that shows that relationship is more important than anything else.
Our children want to feel loved, accepted, appreciated et al, let’s be there to fill the 7 parenting vacuums.
Let’s commit ourselves to constant learning to effective skill sets for raising 21st century kids and..
With God at the center of it, Relying on his grace and wisdom, we wouldn’t fail God, we wouldn’t fail our generation. I appreciate you all for your time and following. God be glorified!!!
Wow! #ListenUpNG WHO OR WHAT IS INFLUENCING YOUR CHILD? ARE YOU? IF YES, WHAT OR WHO IS INFLUENCING YOU TOO?
Thank you so much @Therapistjones! It’s great having you on #ListenUpNG Wk37! Wise counsels!
Thanks for being a blessing to our generation especially the teens!
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