#ListenUpNG Wk31: ARE THERE STILL ‘GOOD GIRLS’ OUT THERE?🤔

#ListenUpNG In my years of counselling, there is one recurring question from most male counsellees seeking a serious relationship.

#ListenUpNG The question is “ARE THERE STILL ‘GOOD GIRLS’ OUT THERE?”

#ListenUpNG This will be our focus of discussion; the #RealLifeIssue on #ListenUpNG today!

Hello! Welcome to another inspiring session; infact the last session in the August Edition of #ListenUpNG dedicated to the Singles

And incase you’ve missed any of the live session on #ListenUpNG, simply click the link in my bio or visit www.kemiodutayo.com/blog

#ListenUpNG Our guest, David Olamide Craig @revdrcraig apart from being a medical doctor, is happily married to his sweetheart, Aisha.

who he fondly refers to as a true Nigerian. Lol!😁

#ListenUpNG Dr. David Olamide Craig @revdrcraig with his beautiful wife, are the founders of SURULERE LOVE, an online Dating Site.

#ListenUpNG Amongst other things, they promote happy marriages with God at the centre. I came across him via his #HappyMarriedChallenge…

…an initiative aimed at making Happy Marriages famous on instagram. His counsels on Relationship is worth listening to! #ListenUpNG

#ListenUpNG @revdrcraig will be tweeting on today’s #RealLifeIssue Be free to tweet your questions and comments at him after his session

Join me to welcome Olamide @revdrcraig on today’s session of #ListenUpNG Get ready for a paradigm shift in your mindset

1. Good girls gone bad

Gold-diggers, heart breakers, home wreckers all. Not one is innocent. Where have all the good girls gone?

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2. In the words of Ajebutter and Falz, “All the fine girls have joined gang” #ListenUpNG

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3. It would seem like this is the prevailing sentiment amongst the so called “good boy’s association.”

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4. They say there is a global scarcity of good girls and it seems that Nigeria has been hit particularly hard by this epidemic.

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5. You could be excused if you feel this is merely hyperbole or overstating the facts. How would you know now? Wetin consain you

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6. Shebi you have a warm pair of thighs to snuggle up with in your matrimonial bed every night.

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7. All you married men can exit please. Thanks for visiting. Goodbye. Make we know those wey remain.🙋

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8. How many single good boys of Nigeria Association members do we have here? Do like this 🙌 I know my pipo 😒 No famzing

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9. Now that we know ourselves, Lets take a look at the question at hand for today “Are there still good girls out there”

Ready?

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10. I heard a story the other day of a 32 year old guy who came back from the US after a decade of study abroad

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11. He set up a tech based company and employed about 7 people, most of whom were from disadvantaged backgrounds,

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12. He paid them a decent enough income for them to literally become the breadwinners of their homes. Paid school fees etc.

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13. One day he met a lady through a mutual friend. He was struck by her exquisite beauty and stunning good looks.

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14. She was always impeccably dressed, had an impressive taste in fashion and always looked photoshoot ready.

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15. For want of a better term, she is what is colloquially referred to as a slay queen.

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16. But more than just her looks and style, he felt comfortable in her presence, he felt she shared his sense of humor

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17. She laughed at his jokes and made him feel at ease with himself. She brought out the best in him and treated him like a king

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18. You see, this our guy was what some of you might call a “Bolo”. He was a proper Lekki aje-butter, mummy’s boy confam

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19. He was a little overweight, but not fat, he was your typical shy introvert who would rather read a book than go out clubbing

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20. Never smoked and only ever drank white wine, Sauvignon Blanc to be precise. Body count complete on one hand. Not stingy.

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21. Did I hear someone say “Perfect guy”? Well a lot of people sure did think so

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22. They grew closer and closer and even though they never officially started dating they did spend almost every day together

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23. They went out to movies, went to see plays dined at fine restaurants, and let’s not forget her favourite pastime shopping🛍️

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24. Fast forward a few months of quasi-dating, and the guy was already in love. He bought a ring and was going to propose.

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25. True members of good boy club already know what happens next for it has surely happened to them many times before.

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26. If only our yankee boy had close friends for “igboro”, they would have told him that the love of his life was a runs geh 😔

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27. She provided him with the “girlfriend experience” in exchange for his frequent shoping trips to dubai and London

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28. The trouble is he wasn’t aware of that arrangement. He was looking for Mrs.Right, she was only looking for Mr. Right Now

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29. So our boy is heart broken. Devastated. Cries for weeks. Lost weight. Hits the gym. Focuses on his business. Becomes a hunk

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30. In his next relationship he becomes a “Yoruba Demon”. She practically pays for the sins of his ex. He dumps her in 4 months

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31. Funny thing is, the girl he treated badly was actually a good girl. She loved him genuinely and would have made him happy

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32. She was so heartbroken she cried for weeks. She decided she’d had enough a of being a good girl. Time to show men pepper.

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33. And so the story goes.

Bad boys hurting good girls.

Good girls becoming bad girls.

Bad girls hurting good boys.

Good boys…

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34. It’s not a new story. It’s an old one. It tells the tale of how our actions reverberate across time to change us and others

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35. This is the crux of the matter. It’s not really whether there are any good girls left, it’s what happened to the ones we had

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36. And before you tell me that not every bad girl was heartbroken, let me tell you this. “No one starts off dysfunctional”

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37. We are either born to a dysfunctional environment and learn from of our surroundings or are broken by life and circumstances

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38. The legacy of a broken humanity is broken people. Hurt people hurting others.

Like yeast in dough, its spread uncontrollable

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39. I’ve had my heart broken more times than I care to remember (and I’ve done my own share of heart breaking too)

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40. Ever wondered how different your life could have been if you had never met the people who broke you?

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41. But that’s where grace comes in. Going by my track record of broken hearts, I probably deserved to die single and alone

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42. And if Karma was truly just, then the girls who broke my heart probably deserved the exact same thing too

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43. Aren’t we glad that God is not like that? Isn’t it refreshing to know that no matter how broken we are we can still be loved

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44. The first girl to break my heart is happily married to a fantastic man and they have three lovely children

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45. I started this series quoting Ajebutter and Falz. So… Have all the good girls really gone bad? I beg to disagree

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46. I know for a fact that there are good girls out there. I know this because I found one 😍

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47. I am not the exception. There was nothing special about me. I was just as unworthy. Just as unsure. Just as afraid.

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48. But more than that, my story is a parallel of an ever better story. The story of Christ’s redemption and his unfailing grace

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49. Our world is a mess because humanity is a mess, and our lives can sometime reflect that chaos and dysfuction

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50. But like me, a broken man, who had broken people, but still gets the girl of his dreams, Jesus came and made a way for us

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51. The truth is that there is a “good girl” hidden inside the shell of every “bad girl”. She wasn’t born bad. Life made her so

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52. Bad girls. Oya come. Has anyone ever told you about Jesus?

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53. So brothers, be sure of this one thing. There are MANY good girls out there.

Don’t stop searching. Don’t stop believing

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54. And to all the good girls out there waiting on the right guy to come along. Don’t give in, don’t give up. He’s on his way!

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55. Thank you all for tuning in!

God bless you.

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