#ListenUpNG Wk28: WHY CAN’T SHE PROPOSE?

Hello folks! TGIF! Welcome to yet another interesting and thought provoking session this week on #ListenUpNG

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Today on #ListenUpNG The #RealLifeIssue to be discussed is: WHY CAN’T SHE PROPOSE? Why can’t a lady proposed to the one she loves?

#ListenUpNG In this contemporary times, is there anything wrong with a lady proposing to her POI(person of interest)?

#ListenUpNG Is it acceptable for her to cut to the chase by proposing marriage when it seems her guy is dragging his feet?

With me, today on #ListenUpNG is our very first special guest in our August line up of men & women of competence & passion in their fields @bisi_adebayo

#ListenUpNG! @bisis_Adebayo is the host, Wives Alert Gisting Sessions (WAGS), founder of Wives Academy, a seasoned counsellor

#ListenUpNG @Bisi_Adebayo is a relationship coach of many years with peculiar experience in pre and post marital counselling

Do sit tight and get set as I welcome @bisi_adebayo on board #ListenUpNG
This is one session you can’t afford to miss! Over to you, sis!??

Good day ladies! A big pleasure it is for me to be back here. Thanks to @kemiodutayo for having me again. #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#1. So you finally met the man of your dreams and all is perfect … or near perfect as it is #ListenUpNG #wivesalert.

#2. It has been a whirlwind romance, endless thrills and breathless moments. Every girl’s dream #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#3. He has all the qualities you desire except for his inability to voice out a proposal. #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#4. You have convinced yourself he really wants to but for this phobia…and he may just need some help #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#5. Who is better suited to help him if not you…after all your eventual job description is “helpmeet” #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#6. As a help meet to be, why can’t you help out by proposing to him rather than him proposing to you? #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#7. Our world has witnessed a substantial whittling down of gender. roles and responsibilities #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#8. The lines are getting more blurred by the day and it is daily taking a toll on societal expectations. #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#9. In the midst of the ensuing hullabaloo, some cultural, societal and religious values must be held sacrosanct. #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#10. One of such is the importance of the family unit and the important role it plays in societal development. #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#11. The collective strength of a nation is a reflection of the aggregate strength of its family units. #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#12. The foundation of every such unit and ability of the major players to deliver value as intended by God is key. #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#13. God stated in clear terms the foundational role of the man and the woman in the formation of this unit #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#14. proverbs 18:22 says he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord. #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#15. There must be a looking for, a finding and an obtaining, roles biblically reserved for the man. #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#16. In courtship, the man is the pursuer and the woman is the object of his focus and pursuit. #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#17. This pursuit should lead to a desire in the man to capture and detain for retention, hence a formal proposal #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#18. There have been instances where the pursuit went on for years and a desire to capture was not demonstrated #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#19. It is perfectly in order to request a clear direction for the relationship. Let him verbalise his intentions #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#20. A request for intentions to be laid bare has been instrumental in revealing the mental maladies of some guys #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#21. How else do you diagnose a guy who has hung around for years eating snails & fresh fish free of charge? #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#22. What options are available to a lady whose heartthrob refuses to propose in spite of all the hints? #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#23. Taking the bull by the horns may seem reasonable, after all they say what is good for the goose… #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#24. Proposing to a guy gives the impression that you were desperate and couldn’t wait to be asked #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#25. Even if he says yes, you may spend a lifetime wondering if it was out of pity or a genuine desire to have you #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#26. If his acceptance is indeed out of a genuine desire to be with you, why doesn’t he do you the honour of asking? #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#27. If he says no, then something within you dies. It will take more than a healthy self esteem to bounce back #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#28. It is good to marry but better to be with a man who really desires to spend the rest of his life with you #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#29. If you truly desire a man who will lead and who deserves your love and respect, then allow him take the lead. #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#30. A guy should be man enough to go for who he wants and not be coerced or persuaded into it. #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#31. Taking the opportunity to propose away from the man may be tantamount to emasculating him. #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#32. When a lady assumes the role of the proposer, she sets herself up to become the pursuer. #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#33. We cannot however deny the fact that there may be cultural or peculiar situations that may alter the norm #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#34. A case in point is that of the proposal from Ruth to Boaz. Check it out in chapters 3 & 4 of the book of Ruth. #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#35. Ruth actually did propose and it augured well for her. So well that she made it to the family tree of Jesus #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#36. Just before you run off to go on bended knee before that bloke, take note of her peculiarities… #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#37. Going by her circumstances, Ruth could not date or be courted by anyone. She had a very restricted circle. #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#38. For Ruth, it had to be her late husband’s close relative so that his lineage could be preserved. #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#39. She was not an attractive choice. Ruth 4:6 made it sound like she was a burden that will reduce value #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#40. Ruth was actually openly verbally rejected by one other close relative for fear she would ruin his inheritance #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#41. Ruth in today’s language was like a damaged product, an infected livestock that no farmer wants near his herd #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#42. Naomi who understood the culture took steps to protect her vulnerability by suggesting the kind & mature Boaz #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#43. Boaz himself was discreet, protecting her honour & asking that her visit be kept secret. He did not flaunt it #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#44.Ruth in my estimation is therefore not the standard example to emulate in this regard. Watch who & what you copy #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#45.The circumstances she found herself in were deep and complex. She was very vulnerable but a way was made for her#ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#46. If you are vulnerable & viewed like a damaged product that ruins value, then you may very well consider proposing #ListenUp #wivesalert

#47. I urge the single ladies out there to keep adding value to who they are. Hold your heads up high! #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#48. Reject every philosophy that labels you as vulnerable, damaged, desperate and needy, hunting on bended knee…#ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#49. Be that value adding asset that a reasonable and strong man worthy of your love & respect will do all to have #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

#50. Don’t settle for less. A treasure is searched out and found. Who ever saw diamond or gold begging to be mined? #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

Keep the conversation on till I come your way again…so long dear girlfriends! #ListenUpNG #wivesalert

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