#ListenUpNG 2018: COUNSELLING AND THE MYTHS SURROUNDING IT (2)

Hello peeps! Welcome to yet another inspiring and enlightening session on #ListenUpNG today. I’m sure we are all looking forward to a wonderful weekend!😆 Be sure to take time out and chill👍

Today, we are going to continue with the topic we started last week: COUNSELLING & THE MYTHS SURROUNDING IT. The first part was awesome. #IncaseYouMissedIt You need to read it! Click link to read the compilation

As it’s well known, #ListenUpNG is a weekly mentoring event on twitter where men and women of character, experience and expertise in their area of influence. They come to share with us from their wealth of knowledge discussing #RealLifeIssues we encounter daily

However, we realise that to be properly mentored, people need to learn to seek help when in need. #ListenUpNG They need to have someone to talk and walk them through life issues and that’s where COUNSELLING/THERAPY comes in.

#ListenUpNG Counselling affords you the opportunity to talk in a way that is open and likely to be more transparent. This allows our brain and our sub-conscious get tickled into new thoughts and reactions. It gives deeper opportunities to consider issues from different perspectives

#ListenUpNG In case we have formed some disempoering mindsets and believe in sweeping generalisations eg.
‘this will always be the way’, ‘things will never change’, ‘I can’t see any improvement in this situation’…etc what counselling does is to open new neural pathways in a very subtle way

#ListenUpNG As more options become available and our sub-conscious gain more awareness, we have the option to release long-held ideas that may not benefit our own wellbeing.

In time, we start to talk honestly about things we’ve never talked about and have our feelings acknowledged.

So, what are the myths some people have come to believed about Counselling? What are the reasons holding them back from exploring this awesome option? #ListenUpNG I shared two of these myths last week. You can read up by clicking this link https://t.co/jkFr3Cynln

Now sit tight and #ListenUpNG as I continue to share more of the myths surrounding Counselling.

MYTH 3:

#ListenUpNG SOMEONE WHO DOESN’T KNOW ME CAN’T BE OF HELP TO ME!

The counselling process requires the counsellor to be objective and unbiased. Not knowing you personally is one major reason why counselling can be successful. A medical doctor doesn’t have to know you personally before diagnosing and treating you. Does he?

MYTH 4:

#ListenUpNG COUNSELLING IS ONLY FOR PEOPLE WHO ARE CRAZY AND UNSUCCESSFUL

Contrary to general but misguarded belief, many people that go for counselling have normal challenges. Infact most of them are successful and can be called Achievers. They are just among the few wise people that decided to do something about it! They want to figure our why they aren’t happier with their success and are ready to do what it takes to reinvent themselves.

MYTH 5:

#ListenUpNG COUNSELLING IS JUST ABOUT TALKING

Truly, counselling involved loads of talking, for hours at times as that is the basic form of communication and expression of our emotions. However, counselling is not just about talking. It’s also about being fully heard, received and understood at a much deeper level than normal conversation usually allows. It’s a learned skill.

MYTH 6:

#ListenUpNG GOING FOR COUNSELLING IS A THING OF SHAME

Some people are worried at what oeople will say. They imagine everyone will know and br in their business. In Professional Counselling, this is taken care of by the confidentiality clause. However, there is no shame in seeking for help in your area of weakness. Infact, this is a courageous act as you’ve refused to be part of statistics and decided to be in charge of your life! Instead of allowing life to happen to you!

MYTH 7:

#ListenUpNG A COUNSELLOR KNOWS IT ALL

No! Counsellors are not psychic. They work and walk with you only to the extent of the information provided by you. They ask pointed and leading questions to elicit answers you may not have considered before. As counsellors, their training helped them to observe their clients & listen to them in such a way that counsellors may notice things about the clients that he or she doesn’t even know or haven’t yet realised about him/herself

MYTH8:

#ListenUpNG A COUNSELLOR CAN SOLVE ALL YOUR PROBLEMS

It’s not the job of the counsellor to solve your problems. If you are looking for a way to abdicate responsibility for your life then counselling is not for you. A counsellor’s job is to help you think through your problems, provide insights and help you to figure out how best to solve your problems by and for yourself in a resourceful environment provided by the counsellor.

MYTH 9:

#ListenUpNG THE COUNSELLING SESSIONS ARE JUST A MEANS FOR THE COUNSELLOR TO MAKE MONEY OFF YOU

You cannot put a time limit on the amount of care, thinking space and attention that a client/case may require. Counselling takes as long as it needs to. The length of counselling and the number of counselling sessions required by clients depends on the clients’ unique goals and the severity of their challenges. These are what determines the frequency and number of sessions suggested by the counsellor

MYTH 10:
#ListenUpNG COUNSELLING IS UNAFFORDABLE & UNAVAILABLE

Getting trained as a professional counsellor is an expensive vocation in itself. The cost of logistics; office space, assessments, the counsellors’ time and intellectual capacity etc can’t be quantified. All these are put into consideration and charged as counselling fee. However, most counsellors offer pro bono services since they aren’t just about the money but helping their clients.

Some faith based organisations & non governmental bodies equally have trained counsellors that will be willing to offer their services free of charge. U can easily take advantage of this. Be rest assured that help is readily available, even online.

#ListenUpNG I will like to round up today’s session by encouraging you to seek help if in need! With the information, resources and resource people available online, you don’t need to suffer in silence. Call a counsellor!

Next week, I will be concluding this topic and thereby wrapping up the MARCH EDITION of #ListenUpNG. Do remember to follow me @KemiOdutayo and @me4counselling on both instagram and twitter. Meanwhile #ReadRestRelaxAndReflect on past sessions here www.kemiodutayo.com/blog

Right now on our instagram page @me4counselling we are taking up the challenge of #MakingHappyMarriagesCommon #ListenUpNG Click the link and participate

Regrann from @kemiodutayo – #MakingHappyMarriagesCommon Challenge . In a time and age where the institution of marriage is under siege . Where it's looked upon with disdain by some and ridiculed by many . Where it's purpose and main values of commitment and faithfulness are mocked by the majority . Where the rate of divorce and separation has hit an all time high . 🤗Friends! It's time to change the narratives . It's become absolutely necessary to showcase and celebrate couples who have stayed the course through thick and thin . Who despite all odds, have purposed in their hearts to give it all it takes to make it work . Couples who decided to cover each others' nakedness and help with each others' weaknesses even as they celebrate each others' strengths . Couples who have purposed to enjoy their marriage rather than endure them . Couples who are #MakingHappyMarriagesCommon . Are you one of them? Yes, you!👉 . . If your answer is yes, kindly join me @KemiOdutayo and the @me4counselling team in this campaign of #MakingHappyMarriagesCommon by sending in your before(wedding) and after(current) pictures to . me4counsellingteam@gmail.com Be sure to state the following:😍 1. The year you got married 2. How long you've been married 3. Years the pictures were taken 4. Your names 5. Your instagram accounts . . Let's go down memory lane!😆 . . Ps. Even couples with marriages of a year plus need to be applauded these days! Bravo! Keep the flag flying!😎 . However, for this challenge, we will be focussing on marriages of 5 years and above. . Disclaimer: 1. This is not to say Single guys and ladies are any less purposeful and impactful in their various endervours! Infact, they are the bomb! Shout out to all Singles out there! 😘😘😘 . 2. Neither does it cast aspersions on those whose marriages disintegrated despite their commitment and against their wishes. You can find love again and do better next time! Loads of love! 😍😍😍😍 #ListenUpNG #Me4Counselling #ProfesionalCounselling #ThisThingCalledMarriageNG #InfidelityRecovery #PreAndPostMaritalCounselling #GodAtTheCentre #TeamKK #TalkingAndWalkingYouThrough – #regrann

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